Toxic love: the signs that don’t deceive
In love, everything is not always simple. You may be wondering about toxicity in your relationship. Discover the clues revealing the harmfulness in your relationship.
Love is blind; it can often make you turn a blind eye to harmful attitudes. Your blinders prevent you from evaluating the relationship as a whole. You may then find yourself trapped in a situation where your well-being is put to the test. A person may seem completely normal, but exhibit harmful behaviors when in a relationship. However, signs can be detected from the start of the relationship.
How do you know if you are toxic in love?
At the start of a relationship , you are often on cloud nine. Everything is rosy, nothing seems to be able to spoil this wonderful emerging story. As the couple evolves, certain attitudes, often unconscious, can appear, endangering the stability of the couple.
To find out if you are toxic in love, ask yourself the following questions:
● Did you put your partner at the center of your life at the start of your relationship?
● Does your mood change based on interactions with your spouse?
● Would you like to know his every move?
● When you do an activity, are you totally in the present moment?
● Do you want to change certain facets of his personality?
● Do you have any hobbies or passions that you pursue alone?
If you answered yes to most of these questions, you may have an addiction problem. Not to mention toxicity, these behaviors can lead to problems within the couple. However, it is not irreversible. By admitting your behavior and working on yourself, you can stabilize your emotions.
Why is my relationship toxic?
Your relationship is considered toxic because it plays with your emotions like a roller coaster. You can feel extremely good one day, the next very bad. This is due to a lack of stability in your relationship. It is explained by an emotional dependence of one of the spouses, or even both.
You then no longer really have moments for yourself , everything revolves around your partner. This relationship is then harmful for the couple, but also for each person’s personal life. It is difficult in this situation to envisage long-term happiness.
When does love become toxic?
Love becomes toxic when it brings more negative emotions than positive ones. These negative emotions are mainly due to emotional dependence. You are then no longer completely the only master on board. Your mood changes depending on your interactions with your spouse. His words, his actions towards you then guide your life. It is therefore opposed to beneficial love where each person can flourish on their own while providing the necessary support to their spouse.
Your partner may be annoyed by certain facets of your personality, preventing you from being yourself. These behaviors are also signs of toxic love.
What is a toxic man?
A toxic man is a man preventing you from having your own personality. He doesn’t accept some of your character traits, he wants to make you change. His narcissistic needs push him to control your life, so that he is the center of it. He therefore tries to reduce your interactions with the outside world as much as possible , even with the people closest to you. He wants total exclusivity of your daily life, of your thoughts. It is very difficult to be yourself, to develop personally in this situation.
Emotional dependence and the inability to be yourself are telltale signs of a toxic relationship. It is often very hard to escape from a relationship that has taken this turn.
